Trust:
Everyone makes choices, and is ultimately responsible and accountable for those choice, but when these choices also effect everyone else and they do, then how we respond to the low judgement of others, and how as a society we work to build a system where these mistakes or errors in judgment never come to fruition or can be handled in a constructive safe and non exasperating manner can make or break society.
Where there is equality under the law, there is the threat of violence, or retaliation through legal means. When equality under god is usurped by these laws, then in marriage there can be no trust because the law whereas it may be just under the equal opportunity to make money and to vote, it is not just under love, because the hierarchy of love and equal opportunity is not the same under god. Under the law one must simply exist to deserve the same rights as another, but under God one receives what one gives. And using the threat of violence against the other is not the way of a healthy relationship. This is the premise of the argument that the government should not be involved in personal relationships, because simply by being involved they necessitate themselves and exasperate never supporting, being only able to offer, ‘help’ in divorce not in marriage.
If you have never been, stolen from, lied to, ignored, cheated on, humiliated, divorced, betrayed, abused, or accused of something you did not do, and then this article is not for you. If you have taken responsibility or accused for something you should not be responsible for then this article is for you.
Lack of trust is de-facto and built in the system. A system of trust without documentation or contingency is often called love or perhaps leaving oneself exposed, or just crazy. Many people today, who are considered wise, in all manners, do not trust. They do not put themselves in a position where trust is needed. Negative consequences are predisposed to where a violation of an agreement would not occur without compensation to the offended party. Also negatives are put in place in which very existence themselves creates the need for it, such as the patriot act.
With these preset up agreements, such as a prenuptial agreement in the case of a man, this would limit the assets that can be ceased in a divorce. Which offsets the prenuptial agreement that is built in the system for the woman granting half of all assets and jail time for her ex if he does not pay; there really is no true trust. A woman will claim he does not trust her, with the asking for a prenuptial, but is she with the system like it really trusts the man?
With contracts in business, what are these really? They are the threat of violence against another if they violate the contract, although in marriage this occurrence would result in incarceration or the threat of it.
Law what is that? Is it not conditional violence? Under certain conditions certain parties are allowed to steal, hurt, attack, imprison and possibly kill you.
True trust would be a to sign a legal waiver to never use such powers ( force of a standing army) against the each other nor to use the threat of such powers as a method of control in the relationship. Of course then who would get married or enter some other kind of contract? Since equality is believed to be an evolution of the species, {although today it is maintained only by force}, greater peace and happiness for all should be the result but alas, the new equality has only resulted in greater conflict, war, expense and suffering for all including children and the dreams of tomorrow.
In love however the last and vast real estate of human endeavors, one must trust. Often we are betrayed, used, abused, neglected or even end up abusing and hurting the ones, we 'love' or do we? In many cases, one may see a 'benefit' more from being offended than being in a working relationship because it will result in the double joy of releasing them of their obligations and result in some kind of compensation. This agenda can only be seen by an objective party and simultaneously made possible by an objective party. There are many systems in place that exploit someone's trust and also systems that exist to help offset this exploitation therefore necessitating each other. It is typical for a self serving system to offer a solution which is actually the problem. The worse the problem the more powerful the system becomes. The goal is not to resolve and help but to necessitate them-selves.
It's important then to negotiate the terms even in Love. To negotiate where both parties can only loose and no one can gain would be a start. Of course we would not want to be trapped in a relationship either. To swim out to the ocean and plan to never come back, knowing if the other is not there you will drown. To totally need someone today is considered a weakness, too bad. Fear to love, already part of the everyday language.
True love as it is heard about, is not possible today with a person. Unless a person has excellent knowledge, foresight, hindsight, and judgment it's best to just negotiate with your lawyers first in all endeavors or simply do not enter into legal binding contract. Love has been sold to us like everything else; its purpose is to open us up for business. Billions are made exploiting our need for it. Yet we are constantly brainwashed in acting as if we do not need anyone. I have never met a lonely woman who needs anyone although I am told they exist everywhere. This great failure to admit ones human needs profits business by Billions. For some reason it’s okay to admit to needing a corporation and spend billions on its products to find love, but it’s not okay to admit to actually needing that love itself. Billions are made exploiting its creation and termination.
True love does not exist while simultaneously entering into third party contingency relationships 'just in case' it does not work out. Unfortunately this is built in to the system at birth. True love can only exist with the couple alone, absolute, and with no other involvement, except for those who support such as family in the case of marriage, or business partners in the case of business now or ever. Once you know this for certain you are free of the carnage and vulnerability. In other words, everyone demonstrates an absolute non trust in the third party entities, {which exist solely because of lack of trust, and in turn promote their necessity by propagating and then making a reality that no one can be trusted,} to make life happy, or benefit you or society, Do you trust your ability to determine who you can trust? This thinking is not popular because it does not allow anyone to make money or attack you off your bad choices that at the time might of looked pretty good which are usually only a bad choice because it involves a third party rip off. It's funny how not trusting at all is considered a bad thing as well, (but by whom?), you can never win.
You will find that relationships, ( business, marriage, work, government) that do work, trust has little to do with it but understanding of where each other stands, what they have to gain, and lose. It can be said without contracts one cannot do business; well contracts are a result of no trust. Trust should be the norm, anyone violating this would be alienated from future business and the fortunes seized in proportion to the break in trust.
The governments of the world ask/demand that we trust them. They love to introduce new problems and therefore new solutions which in turn create new problems and new solutions which create more problems etc. For example if getting voted depends on how well you deal with the enemy such as terrorist, then would you not be dependent on them to get voted? Businesses love to introduce new needs which create new needs which create new needs (I mean accessories) etc.
Anyway these are all ideals, so right now all you can do is be careful and since odds are you self destructive in many ways, let’s hope your choices in business, relationships and parties do not reflect that too badly. The kindest thing you can do is find help with your choices, making them and modifying or softening, before it’s too late, you can trust some of the choices I make for you and if you cannot or should not, I will let you know.